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Dear Nancy
I have learnt so much since finding out about personality type two months ago!!! Knowing about the strengths of your type is wonderful -- but I think it's even more liberating to understand about the challenges of your type -- having this insight makes the way you respond to circumstances so much easier to deal with. I realize that my over emotional outburst over the weekend is about who I am -- we feel things very powerfully including the not so good stuff -- it goes with the territory! It doesn't mean that you're unhinged! The feelings are wonderful when it's about seeing people grow and develop or feeling love for others but not so good when you can feel other people's pain and discomfort too (or when you have a big disappointment in your profrssional life!!!)
I can also see how being with Xxx helps me balance -- he puts forward the other side of the coin for me and it helps me to calm down. That's not to denigrate the power of those feelings but it's also about realizing the strengths of other types and how we can help each other. In turn I know I've helped him in expressing his feelings. I read Bill's story on the web sight who is an intp and used to be a university lecturer until the powers that be got rid of him, despite the fact that his students really appreciated him. He reminded me so much of xx -- his passion for science and ideas/knowledge, his lack of competitiveness and ability to see what support people needed to learn .... I really felt for this man on the web site -- it's such a loss to teaching!
I loved what Bill said about people telling him as a child to smile more -- we used to have a neighbour who would call out everyday to me on my way home from school -- "'smile love - it might never happen'" sometimes I'd be so deep in thought ....
It's really interesting to hear you say that poetry is the language of the infp -- I often think in terms of poetry -- ideas come to me, they often come with a line of a poem I remember.
I also loved the article about the Biggest Toad of All -- it's so true that 'shyness' is being pathologised these days. Alan Bennett is one of those writers I go back to when I'm feeling down -- his humour is delightful and touching -- I have a copy of Telling Tales which is about (amongst other things) his childhood in Leeds in Yorkshire -- it makes you laugh out loud. One of the writers on the site talked about the humour of introverts and I think this is sometimes missing from type talk -- introverts do have a sense of humour.
The stuff about territoriality also made a lot of sense to me -- not about things -- but about my personal space. I have very rarerly enjoyed having people in my home -- but I've often felt bad about this -- everybody else seems ok with welcoming people into their homes and I have sometimes enjoyed visiting people in their homes -- but I can't seem to relax with people in my home -- it feels like an awful invasion.... I usually meet people outside in cafes etc only family and very close friends -- of which there are few -- get in! It's good to feel that I don't have to worry about this anymore.
And I think that this has been the most important thing I've learnt and now really feel is the case -- these things do not matter -- and when I no longer worry about them I have so much more energy for important things. Today I spoke to a group of xxx -- they are usually a group of tough cookies, demanding more support and money and being very challenging -- but today I was so calm and purposefully quiet -- we had such a good meeting and achieved loads and I think that I left them looking forward to the work we're doing together.
Thanks for the website Nancy -- it's brilliant -- I think I may have read most of it now -- I would like to contribute myself and definitely will do soon.
Dear Nancy
I have learnt so much since finding out about personality type two months ago!!! Knowing about the strengths of your type is wonderful -- but I think it's even more liberating to understand about the challenges of your type -- having this insight makes the way you respond to circumstances so much easier to deal with. I realize that my over emotional outburst over the weekend is about who I am -- we feel things very powerfully including the not so good stuff -- it goes with the territory! It doesn't mean that you're unhinged! The feelings are wonderful when it's about seeing people grow and develop or feeling love for others but not so good when you can feel other people's pain and discomfort too (or when you have a big disappointment in your profrssional life!!!)
I can also see how being with Xxx helps me balance -- he puts forward the other side of the coin for me and it helps me to calm down. That's not to denigrate the power of those feelings but it's also about realizing the strengths of other types and how we can help each other. In turn I know I've helped him in expressing his feelings. I read Bill's story on the web sight who is an intp and used to be a university lecturer until the powers that be got rid of him, despite the fact that his students really appreciated him. He reminded me so much of xx -- his passion for science and ideas/knowledge, his lack of competitiveness and ability to see what support people needed to learn .... I really felt for this man on the web site -- it's such a loss to teaching!
I loved what Bill said about people telling him as a child to smile more -- we used to have a neighbour who would call out everyday to me on my way home from school -- "'smile love - it might never happen'" sometimes I'd be so deep in thought ....
It's really interesting to hear you say that poetry is the language of the infp -- I often think in terms of poetry -- ideas come to me, they often come with a line of a poem I remember.
I also loved the article about the Biggest Toad of All -- it's so true that 'shyness' is being pathologised these days. Alan Bennett is one of those writers I go back to when I'm feeling down -- his humour is delightful and touching -- I have a copy of Telling Tales which is about (amongst other things) his childhood in Leeds in Yorkshire -- it makes you laugh out loud. One of the writers on the site talked about the humour of introverts and I think this is sometimes missing from type talk -- introverts do have a sense of humour.
The stuff about territoriality also made a lot of sense to me -- not about things -- but about my personal space. I have very rarerly enjoyed having people in my home -- but I've often felt bad about this -- everybody else seems ok with welcoming people into their homes and I have sometimes enjoyed visiting people in their homes -- but I can't seem to relax with people in my home -- it feels like an awful invasion.... I usually meet people outside in cafes etc only family and very close friends -- of which there are few -- get in! It's good to feel that I don't have to worry about this anymore.
And I think that this has been the most important thing I've learnt and now really feel is the case -- these things do not matter -- and when I no longer worry about them I have so much more energy for important things. Today I spoke to a group of xxx -- they are usually a group of tough cookies, demanding more support and money and being very challenging -- but today I was so calm and purposefully quiet -- we had such a good meeting and achieved loads and I think that I left them looking forward to the work we're doing together.
Thanks for the website Nancy -- it's brilliant -- I think I may have read most of it now -- I would like to contribute myself and definitely will do soon.
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