From today's mail, an articulate (what else?) INTJ describes what it's like ...As an INTJ I often felt odd in high school. I have never had more than a few good friends at one time. Granted, I may know many more people, but I don't consider most my friends... usually aquaintences. This made me feel bad at times. If I had only considered my point of view i was perfectly fine. However, I didn't want other people to think I was a nerd.
Most of the friendships I have last MANY years. I am still good friends with my first friend from elementary school. We have known eachother for 16 years now. The friends I had I really enjoyed being around. But I now realize many of my friends from high school and below greatly contrasted my personality. That is okay though.
I have identified with many people on this form [
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Andy, I especially IDed with you. As we are both males in our early twenties (presumably in college), there is lots of pressure to find that girl.... Later in college I found one of the cooles people I have met (a girl too) - an ENTP. We hit it off really well. I had learned so many things from her. It is a major turn on for someone to send my mind reeling on some crazy idea. At any rate, I don't think she saw this. Well, she did but at a different time then i did. But at the same time she found it necessary to date 4 other guys at the same time. However, I discarded this . Things were always strange though be cause she loved to go out an socialize, while I could be happy sitting in my room staring at the wall.
To cut this long story down, here is the end. She sends me a letter say ing how much she misses me (she was counceling at a camp far away). She tells me how she admires some of my favorit characteristics about myself. I am in awe.
Next, I send her a letter trying to display my own affections for her. I dropped the I love you bomb. I never hear from her again. I had tried calling her but no answer. We had passed eachother at school, but we have to ignore eachother now, and I do'nt know why.
So bohoo, whats my point right? Well, I had to tell the story to explain this part of my personality. I had a really hard time letting go of that "relationship". In fact I still ocassionally write about it in my journal. I would have preffered her to just call me and cus me out and she's afraid of relationships. Is that so hard to ask? AT least I would know what was up. However, the way she ended it i have no knowledge of what the hell I did wrong. I could not stop analyzing the possibilities of what I did wrong.
For me, knowing something is/was wrong and NOT knowing the how to solve it causes much anguish (on anything, not just relationships). I have lost much sleep because I could not stop persuing some sort of information.
Sometimes I have rather strange ideas that I feel obligated to carry out.
Someone mentioned enjoying activities that could be dangerous - mosh pits I believe was the specific example. I have at times wondered how I can go so crazy at concerts when I can be so reserved on normal occasions. I have crowd surfed and moshed before. I also enjoy rock climbing (which really isn't dangerous, but it sounds like it is).
Like everyone else here, I HATE small talk with a passion. However, I do participate in this for several reasons. 1) People wont think I'm wierd. 2) They will be more likely to listen to my ideas later. 3) networking with people can be beneficial
Contrary to what some people have said I can enjoy being around extroverts. My best friend is an ENFP. AS I am usually a man of few words, he is able to fill in what might otherwise be awkward moments. I do'nt see the point of hanging out with someone if there is lots of silence. He is one of the few people that actually does understand me. We fead off eachothers creative energy. He has made me a more rounded person. He has helped me learn to watch people, and interpret their emotions.
It seems like I have typed a lot. Maybe this box is just very small. I would say sorry for the long post, but I read this entire page without thinking twice. If y'all are the same way then the length prolly won't matter.
The closing note. I have become obsessed with MBTI types. It has been my saving grace for realizing why people "act so irrationally' sometimes. I have sort of accepted that some people just talk meaningless drivel whether I like it or not.
MBTI has helped clarify who I am, but I try not to let the MBTI define who I am (subconciously).
I have really enjoyed reading of everyone's though processes. I have always wanted to read the inside of another INTJs mind. I believe writing allows one to externalize ones internal thoughts - that is the thoughts we would not speak. That is why I keep a journal - to read my own thought process on a specific date.
I have a need for extrordinary adventrure to actually taste life.
The author of this is 22 year old David.
Other famous INTJs are:
- AUGUSTUS CAESAR
- DWIGHT D. EISENHOWER
- HANNIBAL BARCA
- THOMAS JEFFERSON
- SIR ISAAC NEWTON
- AYN RAND