Tuesday, May 31, 2005

In today's mail from a 24 year old infp ...

When I am lost and feel like alone "alien", I am able to come to this webdite. I am comforted by thewritings of others. A young had written that his basment is filled with spidersthat he will not kill because "they have feelings'. I can recall asa child that I would alawys treat my stuffed animals and dolls with kindness. My thought was that they had a secret life once I went to bed. I would alwaysdress them warm. I'd keep the in pairs so that don't would not get lonely. Somedays I feel like conquering the world other days I am not so sure. Ihonestly believe that we can all exist in harmony. Today I had some money in mypurse. I was visting a family who lives in a apartment complex for families intransition. I shared what money I had with the children who had none. Irecalled times when I was given something and how wonderful that felt.

-- Lasheda

Please visit the website for resources and encouragement. Let's raise some consciousness. Introversion is a legitimate personality style.
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Monday, May 30, 2005

Here is one of the most famous alchemical symbols, the King and the Queen, the alchemical wedding. This is one of the most beautiful renderings I've found.



Here are some more:


Usually the King is on the viewer'sleft like this.


Here they are smooching in the "retort". If you tour Europe's older castles, you will still find empty retorts in the areas of the castle where the Alchemist worked. After all, what king wouldn't want to be able to turn lead into gold? The king usually supported an alchemist and gave him quarters and supplies. This was the beginning of what later became chemistry just as astrology later became astronomy.
There is one really, really world class site about alchemy and that is Adam MacLean's ALCHEMY SITE. I've been visiting there since he began around 1997-98. Adam's site has grown. He has many tools and classes avilable, a forum and other things of interest.
As with all things on the internet, there are many alchemical websites that are not the real thing but at Adam's you can count on what you see and learn as being the real thing. I've ordered some of his CDs with hundreds of alchemical images on them and have been very pleased. Two of the images above come from this package.
Note from Rachel, a 25 year old infp. Contact her at dreamwalking_beatrice@yahoo.com

"a lot of the times i find it hard to leave the house. I feel sooverwhelmed by all the activity, people, the over all intensity. it is reallydraining on me and i need to hide away and re-goup. I have felt this way throughout my whole life and it has caused me quite a bit of anxiety. I'd love to hearfrom other people who feel this way or have any advice on the matter."

Please contact Rachel if you are an info with similar experiences and positive suggestions on how to handle them.

Saturday, May 28, 2005

Our tribute to Pisces men continues ...
"This is no man!"

Bruennhilde

The Rhine Maidens begging Wotan to return their gold. I like this because I think Wotan in the Ring cycle is a very good father. Or I should, struggles appropriately with being a father. I love his relationship with Bruennhilde.


Comments on introverts/extroverts in "Sideways" from a reader ...

"Sideways" has been usually described as a romantic film about rediscovering life during a mid-life crisis, but it can also be seen as a study on the contrasts between introverts and extroverts and how they interact (and conflict) with each other.

Miles (Paul Giamatti), the aspiring novelist and wine connoisseur, meets Maya (Virginia Madsen) as his friend Jack (Thomas Haden Church) meets Stephanie (Sandra Oh). Miles and Maya are the introverts; Jack and Stephanie, the extroverts. Overall the film portrays the introverted couple far more sympathetically and positively than the extroverted couple, but this is also because Stephanie and above all Jack are more like caricatures of extroverts than realistic representations - they take the basic extrovert weakness, talking and acting before thinking things through, to extremes.

Still, it is a nice portrayal of how romance can develop beween two introverts - even if it also implies that it wouldn't have happened without the presence of the two extroverts, without whom a first date probably wouldn't have even happened.
Calling Lefty Liz!

INFP seeking email pals, fails to leafve email address! I'm hoping this may reach her and she'll come forward with her email address.

She writes ...

How on earth am I going to make a living????

I am 29 and have fully embraced my INFP nature. I do feel that "specialness" and always have. I am deeply spiritual, but I fear the responsibility that comes with being a pastor or counselor, which sound like the best jobs in the world, next to writing and being a Mom.

I regret not listening to my heart when in college and studying things I loved. It is SO hard when you have no guidance. The one professor I thought "got me" insulted me years later when I contacted him because I wanted to hire an intern who--like me--did not "fit" so well in his/her major. "I don't know if I want to send someone to you--you were pretty unstable back then." What an ass! He completely missed the inner treasure. The "dark chocolate filling."By the way, I think dark chocolate should be required prescription for INFP's. MMMM!

Anyhoo, I somehow got into fundraising and the only part I love is composing direct-mail, brochures, and creating "inspirational" meetings where I dare my committees to think "outside the box." But it's not nearly enough, and I am so drained every single day after work I have to come home, close my door, and absorb myself in the television to block out the world. And no one would have any idea I do this, as I am Miss Suzy Sunshine at work and "out there."

My dream is to have a job which I love and come home excited to keep the day going.
You people are cool--and definitely, I agree with one of the latest posts--WE ARE THE PROPHETS OF OUR TIME. Corporate America places no value on our most precious gifts (unless they make them money).

Anyone opening a commne anytime soon? Call me!

:)Lefty Liz
Special Powers Child, Christopher King ...

I received this response to my Special Powers survey. I think Christopher is probably an infj and I'm wondering if any infj's out there would be willing to strike up a conversation with this remarkable young man about his gifts.

Christopher writes ...

I am still a child. I am 14 years old.

I am expiriencing dreams and visions. Almost every night I have a dream about the next day. It was very disturbing at first because I thought I was going crazy. Every single one of my dreams have come true the next day.

My visions are even weirder. When I hold somebodies hand and consintrate, I have quick flashes of their future. I can see what is going to happen to them the next day, year, in 10 year, etc. It is like a photo though because it is so fast. I know this sounds weird but every person that I have had this vision about has come true (except for the long future. I dont know yet). I can say a detail about somebodies day tomorrow and it would come true. What is weird is that I have to concentrate a lot more to read my own future. I have only done this 17 times and all 17 have come out the way i predicted. Then, when I was holding the hand of my girlfriend, I say her future. I saw her dumping me and that was kinda sad. I didn't tell her but soon enough, she dumped me.

If you wanna know more about what I have expirienced email me at cking@latinschool.org.

I know all that I have said sounds really weird but it is all true. I don't think it is a cowincedence that all this is happening because out of the 246 times I have tried this on different people
and myself, it all comes out true. I hope I never lose this power. Please email me, I am bored and I like talking to people. Thank you

Christopher King
cking@latinschool.org


You can take the SPECIAL POWERS SURVEY and other surveys HERE.
http://www.moonmavenpublications.com Donna Cunningham has some great new eBooks on astrological topics.

Friday, May 27, 2005

Does He Need to Know Everything?
by Denise Budden-Potts, PhD
A Dating Coach
President of Dating with your Future in Mind Services

We all have a "past". Some life events can be considered more 'colorful' than others. Dating and mating are important areas of life and living for all people. Women, especially tend to say too much about themselves too soon when dating a man. What to say and how to say it are the two questions to answer for any woman interested in creating a healthy long-term relationship.

"The Past" is a Resource
There are three important themes for readers to know, understand, and integrate into every cell of their being. One is that "the Past" is a resource. It represents many learning experiences. For the woman willing to learn from her past behavior, focusing attention on exactly what she has learned creates motivation to acquire new skills. An example is the woman who has allowed herself to jump into one whirlwind romance after another. Since loosing a man she really loved can be upsetting and painful, she may now want to learn to do things differently.

There is No Failure Only Feedback
A second theme is that there is no failure, only feedback. When things do not work out, it simply means, we just do not have the result we want yet. To get going again may require a shift in attitude. Optimism and Curiosity are examples of powerful learning states a relationship-seeking woman can access from within herself in order to get out and start meeting new men again. Remember love is the magic healer.

The Self-Worth of an Individual is a Constant.
Thirdly, "the self-worth of an individual is a constant." Even if a woman has been married multiple times, for instance, this does not mean she is a "bad person" or "incapable" of having a healthy relationship in the future. Our uniqueness as a person is god-given. Whether we stay "stuck" or decide to add-in empowering dating skills is a choice.

Ladies, when we are meeting a man for the first, second and third time, please remember this man is a stranger to you. He does not need to know your life story and you do not need to offer it to him. Telling him all the details of broken romances and unhappy childhoods is simply none of his business. When asked something like "How come you are divorced?" a woman with dating guidelines in place, answers briefly in a pleasant voice "Oh things just didn't work out". A man who really likes your looks, smile, the way you walk and talk with confidence, will not insist and persist with probing questions. A healthy man is willing to take "No" for an answer and if he asks a question you are not comfortable with, simply say "I am not comfortable talking about that right now."

Get a Life and Value Yourself
How you choose to present yourself as a self-loving woman is the gift you offer. A healthy man wants to be with a woman who has a life and values herself. As the man continues to ask us out after the 4th date, she can gradually reveal more of her life experiences if we choose. Talking on and on about an ex-boyfriend or a father who molested us, is not going to put either of you in happy state of mind. Think about it ... every word we say impacts the quality of experience we are having with a man in that moment. A bond between people forms because they share in activities that generate 'good feelings' for both of them. A self-valuing woman is discriminating about when and how she discloses information about her past. We do not want to reveal something to a man and have him "use" it against us months later. This is why a man must earn our trust in the courtship phase of dating. What you can reveal as he continues to date you is what is most important to and for you (also known as your values) in the present and future. For a woman who has worked to create a life she loves, disclosing her values and life purpose enables the man to get to know her.

A "healthy" man will notice how you treat other people, how you talk with him and how you take care of yourself. After the three month point, if a man has been dating us consistently and asked for exclusivity, we may want to tell him we have declared bankruptcy or we don't visit our brother because he drinks alcohol excessively. The point here is that setting limits on how much and what we say is essential. We talk about these things briefly and succinctly, then move on. We do not make a man our therapist. If there are events to resolve (e.g. incest, physical abuse), we hire a self-help professional to remove "the sting" and help us move forward. As self-loving women we are proactively feminine about creating a life that makes us happy. Loving ourselves and our lives means a woman has love to share. Ladies get going!

About Dr. Budden-Potts
Dr. Denise Budden-Potts is passionate about helping divorced, widowed, and yet-to-be married women bring love into their lives. As a psychologist for over 20 years, her vast training and experience enable her to speak first-hand on how having guidelines in place while dating are essential to success. She married for the first time at 48 years old and lives happily with a loving man. She is a Certified NLP Trainer and considers Neuro-Linguistic Programming a methodology of "Rolls Royce quality" bringing change and greater flexibility in thinking and behavior into peoples' lives. She offers One Day, 8 Week and By-Phone Coaching programs for women.

For particulars please call 760-798-9076 or email: denisebuddenpotts@cox.net
Denise is offering her dating workshop on these upcoming dates.
LEARN 7 EASY DATING SKILLS
THAT BRING LOVE TO YOUR LIFE

San Marcos, Thursday, June 9
from 10 to 4
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Do you ...
  • think you have to work hard to get a man to love you?
  • find yourself in a relationship where you love him more than he loves you?
  • feel uneasy of yourself, of him or of the relationship?
  • know the difference between dating, courtship and marriage?
  • know how your dating behaviors impact the future quality of the relationship?

Come and learn ...

  • To love and value yourself deeply so you can find a man to do the same.
  • What emasculates a man, how to avoid it and what to do instead.
  • How to 'move-on' quickly when a man isn't fully committed.
  • What dating behaviors 'set-up' a future for his continual involvement and desire to invest in the relationship.
  • What is 'non-negotiable' for you in a prospective partner.

Denise also does private Dating Coaching by phone.

Contact Dr. Denise Budden-Potts at 760-798-9076

or email: denisebuddenpotts@cox.net

for more information.

The Biggest and Best Version of AstroDatabank is Released!

This is the first release of AstroDatabank since Lois [Rodden, its creatrix] passed away.


In the meantime, Pat Taglilatelo has spent countless hours, days and months adding and cleaning data. As you can imagine a new pair of eyes has brought us to the cleanest set of birth data ever built.

Over 3,000 records have been added and another 3,000 edited for accuracy.

AstroDatabank 4.0 introduces a breakthrough in multi-factor astrological research with its Factor Analysis Report (FAR). This powerful new feature automatically compares over 309,000 independent factors and tells you the number of times each factor is found in the experimental and control group. You can then sort the results to show which factors showed the most difference.

The factors compared include: planets, house rulers, planet dispositors, and the major asteroids.

For each point the FAR analyzes:

  • Positions by sign, element, mode, hemisphere, house, degree and declination.
  • Dignity using essential dignity, accidental dignity, motion and speed.
  • Aspects using 144 rules to compare 16 aspects based on nine attributes (opening, closing, applying, separating and combinations of these).

Such exhaustive astrological research has never been done before – it just wasn’t feasible without computers. Astronomers who want to make new discoveries need more powerful software to decode telescope data; Astrologers who want to make new discoveries in astrology need more powerful software too.

AstroDatabank 4.0 is now on Sale through June with a 10% Discount

They are raising the price of AstroDatabank to $249, but for this next month you can get it at 10% off, less than the old price of $229. It took an extraordinary amount of programming to build this latest astrology research engine. We hope the community digs in and makes good use of it.



www.astrologysoftwareshop.com/research/#ad

We love Pat at Astrodatabank and are happy to help spread the news!

Wednesday, May 25, 2005

India is going through it's second Saturn Return along with you Boomers currently approaching 60. And isn't that all you hear on PBS these days India. India. India. They are even outsourcing paralegal services now. India is a great example of a terrifically rewarding second Saturn Return. Unlike Israel and Palestine who don't seem to have worked out there "issues" between "ages" 30-60 and are experiencing ongoing crisis! India has found a new place in the world. No more famines for a long time, too. If you are between 30-60, learn a lesson from this. Identify your issues and work on them between 30-60. Great rewards are ahead at the second Return if you do! Saturn always fulfills its promises unlike another outer planet we know by the name of Neptune!

Following up on Pluto in Sagittarius, I heard today on PBS that a Scandanavian researcher has determined that foreign adopted children "turn out better" than inter-country adoptees. I hadn't listened long enough to discover the criteria being used for evaluation. They followed 100,000 cases. Several reasons given: foreign adopted children have less genetic problems as many are put out for adoption just because of the country's attitude toward girl babies, etc. Another reason, possibly American adoptive parent of foreign children are in better shape economically and education wise. In addition, they may be better prepared for the experience of adoption.

A study has also shown that children living near freeways are more prone to asthma. Sometimes I wonder about these research projects. Wouldn't that seem pretty obvious?

Saturday, May 21, 2005

Interested in combating cell phone abuse? ...

From an article in TECH WEB
In a New York City movie theater last week, as Keanu Reeves and Charlize Theron shared the tender moments of a bittersweet romance, a man not only answered his ringing cell phone, but engaged in a conversation.

Fellow patrons "shhhhhed" the offender until he took his call to the lobby, said Ewnetu Admassu, a theater manager at another cinema, who had been enjoying his day off by taking in a flick.


Download cool cards to hand out HERE.

From Post Gazette.com

When customers kept crashing their cars into the rickety metal fence around his Washington Boulevard car wash, or flattening tires as they pulled up to the automatic ramp that guides the vehicles along, manager Charles Jay figured he had to do something.

So he put up a sign banning cell phone use at the Homewood-based establishment, hoping to encourage drivers to stop chatting and pay attention to where they are driving.

Jay isn't the only manager in town who's tired of trying to serve distracted -- and distracting -- patrons who are tethered to their cell phones while trying to do business with him.

A flurry of signs, some more polite than others, have popped up in restaurants, stores, banks, post offices and other service-oriented businesses requesting that customers turn off their phones.

"It's so rude. I put these two signs up because people are standing in line telling all their business where everyone can hear," said Iona V. Comer, who posted two computer-printed requests at the Hill District's Dwelling House Savings and Loan Association.

It's easy to miss the black-and-white signs amid the other postings on the bank's brown walls.

But if you do, Comer is happy to remind you.

As for me, Nancy ...
If I see a business has a sign, I make a point of finding the manager and thanking them. I recently drove 40 miles to see Shakespeare's Merchant of Venice only to have some guy's cell go off not once but twice during the performance and, yes, he did engage in a conversation. Each time he let the phone ring four times.

Leter, back home, I emailed the manager to express my consternation. He told me I should have found an usher. Well and good but that's even more of the movie I'm missing. Anyway, I wouind up with two free tickets to the theater.

Friday, May 20, 2005

Nick Anderson's 2005 Pulitzer Prize winning cartoons are HERE. I love political cartoon. I worked for the great Bill Maudin when I was right out of college. He was holed up at the Chicago Sun-Times and was as old as I am when I met him. He was a very famous man for his generation, my father's generation. He chatted with me quietly every day when he came in to his office for a few minutes to drop things off. He even came to my wedding shower. For sure Bill Mauldin was an introvert.

Here's one of Bill's cartoons from Stars 'n' Stripes. Nostalgic, huh? Bill told me as a kid he disciplined himself to draw one cartoon every single day. He was a very, very sweet man.

Thursday, May 19, 2005

When was the last time you went to summer camp? This looks like so much fun. DreamRoads WITCH CAMP. And there is some fantastic symbolic art on that site.


From Nick and those wonderful guys at StarIQ: Week of May 1th ...

This week, hyperactivity continues to combine with hypersensitivity, overloading nervous systems already stressed from several weeks of persistent intensity. What's more, blurry boundaries are also a part of the energetic terrain, and those fuzzy edges encourage extreme emotions. Expect reactions, yours or others, to move between laughing and crying with the speed of light. But that's not all. A flurry of unforeseen developments is likely to disrupt schedules, turning daily routines into nocturnal activities and evening rituals into tomorrow's "must do".

Humility is the best way to walk through this chaos with confidence. And while that sounds like a contradiction, as the week unfolds, a humble approach will calm anxiety and soothe the weary soul.

The volatile
conjunction of Uranus and Mars is still the source of disruption. There's never really enough room for these two titans of energy to share the same space, so when they do, their crowded house tilts toward impatience, frustration, and a restless need to act regardless of the consequences.

This week, as their conjunction ends and Uranus and Mars pull apart, the ethers rattle from the separation. Don't be surprised if pent-up feelings spill over and spray your situation like a newly opened bottle of seltzer. Fortunately, seltzer doesn't stain, but that doesn't mean there won't be power struggles over whose feelings matter more.

Wednesday, May 18, 2005

Sometimes life offers us more than we think we are capable of.

And sometimes we are not capable of all that life has to offer.
In today's mail ...

I'll never forget the results of a personality test I took in a college career preparation class years ago. I found out that I was an INFP, the only one in the class, and we had to write a report on which career we liked best off of the list that accompanied our results. The ONLY career listed for INFP's was a Concrete Sculptor (all other personality types had from about 15 -50 careers to choose from)!

Ironically, I would love to be a concrete sculptor at this point...

-- Brad, age 36

This is so typical for us infp's -- often a minority of ONE. I have been going to the odd meeting lately where I'm reminded how really different I am. I do everything differently than all the people around me. Well, at least there's something about me that they don't feel like they can tell me to fix it!!

Tuesday, May 17, 2005

Babies of the Zodiac ...

I guess someone had to do this!! These are babies dressed up like Zodiac characters. CLICK HERE.
Are you ill? ...




This is a great book by one of my favorite authors, Thorwald Dethlefsen.
He's more popular in Europe than America.
Here's what the publisher has to say.


The Healing Power of Illness: Understanding What Your Symptoms Are Telling You

FROM THE PUBLISHER
Contrary to conventional opinion, illness is not some quirk of nature you have to fight. A truer understanding of illness actually helps you stay healthier. When you "understand what your symptoms are telling you," you view them as bodily expressions of inner conflicts. Their symbolism will reveal the real problems you're facing. Pick a current health issue and see the difference when you treat it as a sign of healing instead of as a negative, following the approach of two psychologists, one trained in spiritual traditions and the other in natural healing and psychotherapy. Troubles with infection, allergies, respiration, digestion, skin and nervous system, heart and circulation, sexuality and pregnancy, even accidents, come with practical actions to take to remedy them.

Here's another great book for understanding the role of sickness in our lives and the connection between the mind and body.


Dreambody: The Body's Role in Revealing the Self

FROM THE PUBLISHER
Headaches and tension as well as pain and illness are signposts from the unconscious with hidden information that can be used to transform our lives. Just as the unconscious talks to us through our bodies in physical symptoms. In DREAMBODY, Arnold Mindell reveals the hidden significance of physical sensations and body experiences and shows how people's bodies can lead them to greater psychological understanding and transformation. DREAMBODY offers new insight and practical advice to students of psychology, mythology, parapsychology and medicine and to anyone striving for personal wholeness, health and well-being.
As an infp healer, I want everyone to have the experience of good health. It is possible to live with no symptoms of dis-ease, no headaches, no colds, no allergies, no car accidents. These things are the way our Psyche has of talking to us, through our bodily symptoms. Learn this language and you can heal yourself. It is possible. I see it all the time.
EINSTEIN is adorable and his owner is adorable, too.
From an anonymous reader ...

The Germans have acknowledged the awful history of their recent past better than any other nation I can think of (and paid reparations). Now if only the British would do something similar in acknowledging their guilt for tens of millions they've killed in Ireland, Africa, India and Australia over the past few centuries. (And unlike in Germany, where Hitler and the Gestapo killed thousands of German resisters, I'm not aware of too many Britons who died to oppose the British atrocities in their colonies.)

I, Nancy, notice the Germans taking after the British very well (in der Spiegel, for example) and I guess this puts them in the position to do so. It's very German not to take a stand until you have something to stand on. Who better than the Germans to tell everyone else how to make amends? Our collective history take its twists and turns and we all get to play both sides of every equation, just to make very sure that we understand it clearly.
Very pertinent for today ...

"If you board the wrong train, it is no use running along the corridor in the other direction."

--Dietrich Bonhoeffer

With the activity between Mars, Uranus and Jupiter lately, many people have come to the end of their rope, or rather awakened to a greater reality. Things and moving and shaking. If this is you, please plan to do something about it so the energy is channeled constructively. Otherwise, you'll set yourself up for accidents to discharge the energy that you aren't processing consciously. These energies are explosive.


Actual cloud formation from atom bomb.

Rather than imploding or exploding, release the energy by blasting yourself to a higher level of consciousness. Nothing need be DONE immediately, but the realization must be acknowledged in order to remain centered.

No less than three people mentioned the "D" word today (divorce). Others are quitting jobs, moving in, moving out, beginning diets ... this explosive energy is major "go power". Please use it wisely.

Wissen Sie diesen Mann? Ich hilfe ...

Er spielt virtuos Klavier, bringt kein Wort heraus, malt schwedische Flaggen -- und weiss nicht, wer er ist. Ganz Grossbritannien raetselt ueber die Identitaet eines Unbekannten, der in der Grafschaft Kent aufgelesen wurde. Ging er vor der Kueste ueber Bord?
This man seems to have fallen overboard and swam to shore near Kent, England. He cannot speak and does not know who he is, perhaps because of some trauma which happened. He plays virtuoso piano. When he arrived for care he painted Swedish flags. Do you know him? the authorities are hoping perhaps he has played in piano concerts on the continent and will be recognized.

Monday, May 16, 2005

Introverts are not extoverts who "failed" ...

This is an article that appeared today HERE at the New Straits Time in Malaysia ...

Rural men are introverts, insensitive
Rosli Zakaria

KUALA TERENGGANU, Mon.


Most married men in the rural areas of Terengganu are introverts, insensitive and unromantic.

These are the observations of Rosol Wahid, State chairman for Welfare, Health, Social Development and Women's Affairs, of married couples in the rural areas.

"Such traits are not good, especially when they are married. I have met wives suffering from depression, trauma, lack of motivation and who were abused," he told the New Straits Times.

"I have observed this behaviour for some time and I have asked Kuala Terengganu Hospital and the Welfare Department to set up a one-stop crisis centre to provide counselling for troubled couples.

"The centre, which will soon be opened, will also provide tele-counselling for housewives who have been traumatised by their husbands at home and have nowhere to turn to for advice."

These problems, he said, could be avoided if men showed affection for their spouses.

Another culture which must be changed is pampering sons and pressuring daughters to perform the housework.

"Boys always have it easy.

"They are allowed to spend more time with friends than stay at home to read a book or do house chores, but the girls always have to clean the house.

"I guess this is also why boys are high in the statistics of drug addiction while the girls, who stay at home, always excel in their studies.

"A caring family will lead to a caring society," added Rosol.


You can write Rosli @ news@nst.com.my

This is what I wrote:

Rosli, please come of age. These men are not introverted "types" (MBTI), they are withdrawn or sullen, perhaps mentally ill. Perhops they are not well educated or well developed but none of this makes them an introvert. Maybe they drink, don't express their feelings or haven't developed their feminine side but none of these things make them introverted either. Introverts are not extroverts who "failed". We are a legitimate personality type.

Every time someone uses the word "introvert" pejoratively, we feel the pain. Can you feel our pain?

Please come of age and raise your consciousness. Visit www.theintrovertzcoach.com for some illumination.

Good luck with your work otherwise.

Nancy R. Fenn, The IntrovertzCoach

Please consider writing this journalist in our own words and let's raise some consciousness.

Nancy's article on activities where introverted kids can win has been published at kpatra.com


It is of no use to walk somewhere to preach if not the walking is our preaching.
(Franciscus of Assisi)
From today's mail, an articulate (what else?) INTJ describes what it's like ...

As an INTJ I often felt odd in high school. I have never had more than a few good friends at one time. Granted, I may know many more people, but I don't consider most my friends... usually aquaintences. This made me feel bad at times. If I had only considered my point of view i was perfectly fine. However, I didn't want other people to think I was a nerd.

Most of the friendships I have last MANY years. I am still good friends with my first friend from elementary school. We have known eachother for 16 years now. The friends I had I really enjoyed being around. But I now realize many of my friends from high school and below greatly contrasted my personality. That is okay though.

I have identified with many people on this form [CLICK HERE TO FIND THE FORM].

Andy, I especially IDed with you. As we are both males in our early twenties (presumably in college), there is lots of pressure to find that girl.... Later in college I found one of the cooles people I have met (a girl too) - an ENTP. We hit it off really well. I had learned so many things from her. It is a major turn on for someone to send my mind reeling on some crazy idea. At any rate, I don't think she saw this. Well, she did but at a different time then i did. But at the same time she found it necessary to date 4 other guys at the same time. However, I discarded this . Things were always strange though be cause she loved to go out an socialize, while I could be happy sitting in my room staring at the wall.

To cut this long story down, here is the end. She sends me a letter say ing how much she misses me (she was counceling at a camp far away). She tells me how she admires some of my favorit characteristics about myself. I am in awe.

Next, I send her a letter trying to display my own affections for her. I dropped the I love you bomb. I never hear from her again. I had tried calling her but no answer. We had passed eachother at school, but we have to ignore eachother now, and I do'nt know why.

So bohoo, whats my point right? Well, I had to tell the story to explain this part of my personality. I had a really hard time letting go of that "relationship". In fact I still ocassionally write about it in my journal. I would have preffered her to just call me and cus me out and she's afraid of relationships. Is that so hard to ask? AT least I would know what was up. However, the way she ended it i have no knowledge of what the hell I did wrong. I could not stop analyzing the possibilities of what I did wrong.

For me, knowing something is/was wrong and NOT knowing the how to solve it causes much anguish (on anything, not just relationships). I have lost much sleep because I could not stop persuing some sort of information.

Sometimes I have rather strange ideas that I feel obligated to carry out.

Someone mentioned enjoying activities that could be dangerous - mosh pits I believe was the specific example. I have at times wondered how I can go so crazy at concerts when I can be so reserved on normal occasions. I have crowd surfed and moshed before. I also enjoy rock climbing (which really isn't dangerous, but it sounds like it is).

Like everyone else here, I HATE small talk with a passion. However, I do participate in this for several reasons. 1) People wont think I'm wierd. 2) They will be more likely to listen to my ideas later. 3) networking with people can be beneficial

Contrary to what some people have said I can enjoy being around extroverts. My best friend is an ENFP. AS I am usually a man of few words, he is able to fill in what might otherwise be awkward moments. I do'nt see the point of hanging out with someone if there is lots of silence. He is one of the few people that actually does understand me. We fead off eachothers creative energy. He has made me a more rounded person. He has helped me learn to watch people, and interpret their emotions.

It seems like I have typed a lot. Maybe this box is just very small. I would say sorry for the long post, but I read this entire page without thinking twice. If y'all are the same way then the length prolly won't matter.

The closing note. I have become obsessed with MBTI types. It has been my saving grace for realizing why people "act so irrationally' sometimes. I have sort of accepted that some people just talk meaningless drivel whether I like it or not.

MBTI has helped clarify who I am, but I try not to let the MBTI define who I am (subconciously).

I have really enjoyed reading of everyone's though processes. I have always wanted to read the inside of another INTJs mind. I believe writing allows one to externalize ones internal thoughts - that is the thoughts we would not speak. That is why I keep a journal - to read my own thought process on a specific date.

I have a need for extrordinary adventrure to actually taste life.

The author of this is 22 year old David.

Other famous INTJs are:
  • AUGUSTUS CAESAR
  • DWIGHT D. EISENHOWER
  • HANNIBAL BARCA
  • THOMAS JEFFERSON
  • SIR ISAAC NEWTON
  • AYN RAND
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Antares, the Fixed Star ... getting ready for a full moon ritual on the 23rd ...

Check out the Full Moon of May 23rd HERE. It will be at 2 degrees Sagittarius, opposite the Sun at 2 degrees Gemini. There is a very important Fixed Star at 9 degrees Sagittarius, Antares. This Full Moon will take place conjunct Antares.

Here's some information about Antares from Deborah Houlding's website, SKYSCRIPT.

A Royal star, likened to the influence of Mars and Jupiter, Antares offers extremes of success, good fortune, danger and malevolence. It clearly indicates the potential for great power, but where this is simply 'power of will' without integrity or wisdom, it carries the threat of ruination.

Russia is a country significantly influenced by Gemini and Sagittarian energy. We will see if news is forthcoming around the 23rd of May.

Here is the chart of the United States Constitution, with the Moon at 2 degrees Sagittarius, CLICK HERE. Well, the Constitution has been more than a little beleaguered of late.

Carolyn Egan has a fascinating page about the Full Moon of December 26 in Banda Aceh, Sumatra, relative to the Tsunami. At that time Mars was at 0 degrees of Sagittarius. CLICK HERE TO SEE CHART AND DISCUSSION.

The Four Persian Watchers ...

Antares and Aldebaran are the two Royal Stars of the Persians ... today's Iran. Around 3000 BCE, they were aligned to the beginnings of the four seasons. Regulus was conjunct the Sun at the Summer Equinox and was called the Watcher of the North. Aldebaran, the Eye of the Bull, was the Watcher of the East, Spring Equinox (then in Aries). Antares, the Heart of the Scorpion, was the Watcher of the West (then in Libra). Fomalhaut, was the Watcher of the South.


Astrologer JOSEPH P. CRANE puts it this way: Now let's look at Antares. Ptolemy gives it the nature of Mars and Jupiter, but, since it is the Heart of the Scorpion, what do you think? As you are now imagining, Antares is very volatile and Mars-like, associated with rashness, stubbornness, destructiveness, and violence. The native would be given to extremes, for either good or ill. Bernadette Brady states that people with Antares prominent may well cause their own undoing -- they may have to conquer themselves first before they can make a contribution to others. Brady notes Antares prominent in the charts of Nelson Mandela, Agatha Christie, and, a personal favorite, Joan of Arc.

How can a fixed star be prominent in a person's chart? The clearest possibility is conjunct a planet or angle, and modern authors tend to give an orb of one degree. This may become tricky when a star is well away from the ecliptic.

If you'd like to know if Antares is prominent in your chart, please EMAIL ME.

Astrologer Christopher Warnock writes about the use of astrological talismans and amulets and reminds us of this quote from Agrippa:

"Under the Heart of Scorpio (Antares) they made the image of a man armed, and with a coat of mail, or the figure of a scorpion; it giveth understanding and memory, it maketh a good colour, and aideth against evil spirits, and driveth them away, and bindeth them." Three Books of Occult Philosophy Bk. II, Chapter 47, (Tyson ed.) pages 395-6. Warnock offers an online course in ASTROLOGICAL TALISMANS AND AMULETS.

Here is the Antares Amulet:


It helps memory and unerstanding, and is a protection amulet. You might want to print this to use with a ritual for the upcoming full moon. The best way is probably to right click and email it to yourself, download it from there. Or you can also "select" it to print from here.



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Back to the Full Moon on the 23rd ...

Here is the way the Full Moon is described on StarIQ (without reference to Antares), quite prosaically really: The Sagittarian Moon pulls our attention to a faraway place or time, a better world rich with meaning and truth. The Sun in Gemini, though, is busy with the moment's million and one activities, diverting attention from the Sagittarian big picture view. Uranus square the Full Moon adds even more movement to this restless lunation, ideas flipping over in the mind like pages of a wind blown book. Easy aspects from Jupiter and Chiron add wisdom and generosity of spirit that allow us to keep communicating, even when it seems as if we're speaking different languages.

The Angel of the Free Spirit by Jayne Howard ...

Is your spirit free or is it trapped in a world of accumulation? Is your life filled with a lot of stuff? Clutter in the basement? Junk in the attic? Is your mind jammed with useless possessions? Simplify. Look to your kindred spirits in the night sky -- the stars. See how they twinkle and shine with space all around them. Give yourself room to breathe, room to grow, room to expand. Release that which is no longer useful or purposeful in your life. Clean up and clear out. Let your spirit be free.


See more of Jayne's awesome angels HERE.

One of my favorite sayings ...

Life is comedy to those who think and a tragedy to those who feel.


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One of my favorite decks, the Cagliostro.



This card is #5 Major Arcana, usually known as the Hierophant, the One who Teaches the Secrets. This is best located within oneself.


This is the Temperance Healing angel, Egyptian style.
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Sunday, May 15, 2005

In Oriental medicine, organs come in pairs. If there are problems in one, there will be problems in the other:



  • lungs................................large intestines
  • heart................................small intestines
  • kidneys............................(urinary) bladder
  • spleen...............................stomach
  • liver..................................gall bladder

Proper diet is the principal source of our vitality and health.

Are you an intuitive healer?

When you meet strangers you have a feeling about their personality or their spirituality. When you check their symptoms by listening, seeing and touching, you are learning in more detail what you already know about them. By developing your sensitivity, you can diagnose even when the person calls you on the telephone or writes you an email. If you become really good, you do not have to meet people at all. Of course, people would not be satisfied with this, so we have to meet them. Still, sitting down with people, talking to them, touching, should be nothing but confirmation. This keen intuition is the essence of traditional Oriental medicine....

As far as "diagnosing", to know is to heal, to see whole....

Quoted from MichioKushi.
OK infp Healers and other interested intuitives, listen up!

Here are words of wisdom from Michio Kushi on Oriental (intuitive) diagnosis.

"When diagnosing people, which we are doing all the time whether we realize it or not, try to see their total condition, their wholeness. See their past, present and future -- their background, their physical and mental condition and their possibilities for growth. What is their destiny? Consider their personality, their judgment and their spiritual level. The Order of Diagnosis is a three step process. First, you understand the individual's total environment. Second, you see his present physical and mental condition and relate it to the totality. Third, you see the details -- symptoms. Modern Western medicine [really very Medieval] tends to pass over the first two steps and concentrates on the third."

This is something I do intuitively when I am reading for someone because the highest intent is to heal or restore a person to their own center and their natural ability to heal themselves. Then the need to know what is in the future decreases. There is more peace of mind and the feeling of empowerment, knowing that we create our future in the present moment. It is working with energy. The person does not even need to be present.

This is why I circle in with a person during the beginning of the reading. I need to get a sense of context. I ask, "What's going on in your life right now?" "Are you married?" "What kind of work do you do?" You cannot imagine how differently each person answers these questions. Much is revealed, incuding her level of awareness and his degree of spiritual developement.

Often, to heal, a person will need to change her or his environment, such as divorcing a negative husband or wife who does not support them or a terminating employment with a boss who harrasses and belittles them. It is hard to get someone to see that this is necessary but doesn't a recovering alcoholic need to change her friends and favorite social activites in order to remain sober?

Rarely can you go back into the same context you got sick in and remain well.

Please think about this.

Of course some people prefer to die rather than change. We remain neutral. It is the person's choice.

This is called "The Healing of Eowyn" from Lord of the Rings
I will be featuring all different types of healing and healers so infp's and others can get a better range of activity in association with this gift. Many healers never identify themselves at all. You just walk away feeling better, sometimes permanently. Why does anything need to be said?
Dubai, land of many wonders ...

Simply entitled Dubai, I am wondering if this could possibly be a real picture? At the very least, it would make a great Hallowe'en costume -- I bet I see a ton of these in October. Unless this is a cross dresser? What do you think? "S/he's" awfully tall ??

Somehow in Germany, one is always the bad little child ...
This is what I like and don't like about the German culture, including the ways of my grandmother, Gertrude. This is totally something she would say ...

Someone has written an e/mail to an online English=German dictionary asking a question about the use schwarze Stelle in this sentence: Dieser Effekt stoppt aber nicht so schnell, wie auf der Leinwand die schwarze Stelle schon ueberwunden wurde und das naechste Bild erscheint.

The reply she receives is this: Es waere hoeflich, Deinen Namen reinzuschreiben, wenn Du erwartest, dass jemand sich die Zeit nimmt, Dir eine Antwort zu geben.

It would be polite to at least give your name, young woman, when you are asking someone to take the time to answer a question.

Boy does that sound like my strict German grandmother. She had few rules for children but they were strictly enforced and with great love.

Imagine growing up and finding out that every in the world didn't have manners like this! Can you say Culture Shock? Well, living in Southern California for 20 years knocked it out of me :-)
This is my grandmother holding my pouty little mother, Virginia Rose.

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The second Saturn Return for Germans ...

From der Speigel online: "A funny thing happened to Germany on the way to the 60th anniversary of World War II. Somehow it lost its characteristic heaviness -- or at least its shame-faced and guilt-ridden hunkering. German Chancellor Gerhard Schroeder even popped off to Moscow where he became the first German leader to ever participate in Russian celebrations marking the end of the war. He did so accompanied by seven World War II veterans -- a choice that, in past years, would have come off as downright masochistic, but this year conjured a simple shrug of momentary public wonder."

If you were born in 1946-47 you may undergo such a change as well.

Here's more about the changes taking place ...

"On Sunday, current German President Horst Koehler -- already enamored of his reputation as an outspoken maverick -- one-upped [former German President] Weizsaecker, and broke a long-standing German taboo by openly recognizing the millions of Germans who suffered under the Nazis. Here's a sampler: 'We grieve for all of Germany's victims....We think of the millions of people who died in foreign prisons and the hundreds of thousands of women and girls who were sent to Soviet forced-labor camps. We think of the suffering of German refugees and those forcibly expelled, the raped women and victims of bomb attacks against German civilians.'"

(To be fair, [the article continues] Koehler acknowledged the suffering of Jews, the Roma, homosexuals and Nazi resisters earlier in his speech and clearly stated that Germans have a special responsibility and must never forget what they did.) The thing is, until now, such "Germans-as-victims" rhetoric has been the exclusive domain of private dinner parties and was considered far from appropriate to be spoken too loudly -- let alone by a prominent German politician. Why the shift? ..."

The article continues disucsses some differences in behavior. "The greatest post-war legacy in Germany may be to have rid the nation of its obsession with following orders."

"OK, so most Germans still wait at a crosswalk for the light to turn green even if there are no cars. But unlike 60-70 years ago, some don't. On Sunday, 3,000 neo-Nazis planned to demonstrate in Berlin to protest what they called the 'lies of German liberation.' Instead of blindly watching these hate-mongers and not getting involved in 'other people's business,' more than 10,000 people took to the streets to protest and block their path. The result? On the advice of the police, the neo-Nazis cancelled their march and went quietly home. Now that is truly something to celebrate. (2 p.m. CET) "

What a difference a second Saturn Return makes. You see that the price has been paid and new self respect has been earned. This same thing will be happening for you in your life if you have worked hard on your issues between 30-60. When you have your second Saturn Return you will have renewed confidence in yourself and rewards in terms of the issues you have grappled with. It depends on the sign and house of your Saturn.