Friday, September 30, 2005

SUSAN DUNN, THE EQ COACH OF COACHES CONTACT SUSAN

Coaching is so popular these days, especially for people ready to escape the corporate grind. We asked Suan Dunn, the EQ COach who trains coachs what it was like and what she had to offer those interested in becoming a trained coach. CLICK HERE to visit Spotlighting and meet just a few of the coaches Susan has mentored through her EQAlive! program. Susan is one of the busiest and most successful "coach of coaches" in the country.

"How much can you make?" seemed like a good place to start.

Susan warmed to her subject ...

D and K are making 6-figures. I know that.

All of these coaches are really outstanding.

The answer is that there are people making 6 figures, and others who aren't. Whether any particular other person can, or will, is up to them. As K would say, tough cookie that she is, "I'm the coach. It's THEIR game."

I am in no way responsible for the success of their business. I give them the tools. I make no promises. I'm quite open about what I know. I tell most people that the bulk of my business right now, is in training other coaches. That's something that might work for them, as well. There are many different ways to make money "coaching." It's so amorphous now, that's what I like about it. Instead of saying "I'm someone who knows a lot about blah blah," you can say "I'm a coach." There have always been people who were "experts" in certain things, without necessarily having degrees and so forth.

There are lots of passive revenue streams. A coach can model himself or herself after Martha or Oprah, getting a following and then collecting services and products to offer.

EQ coach training is beneficial on its own and I can always heartily recommend it on that score. Everyone says "it changed my life." I have numerous testimonials to that effect. It's good stuff to know and useful.

Coaches L and I were formerly entreprenuers. Many people don't realize that to be a coach, you must be an entrepreneur. You have to set up a business, market it, and promote it. You don't just hang up a shingle and people come. How would they find out about you? L and I made so much in their previous entrepreneurships, they were able to quit doing that, and coach. They know how to run a business and turn a profit.

Both are supporting themselves with their coaching now. I owned a business in a really tough field. L was a professor and then had a business selling something like welcome baskets or something like that. It did really well, so she sold it and "retired." Now she wants to do something more satisfying, and to be a coach. With her business skills, experience and connections " at making money, not at coaching * I'm sure she'll do well.

K, who makes in the 6-figures, was an entrepreneur before too. She then wrote a book about the business she set up and that did well. Through the book promotion, she was familiar to local media, so when she turned to coaching, she just picked up the phone and got herself on television. For her it was only a short time until she was making good money.

The others are newbies, or, in the case of the priest, his diocese paid for him to take it, so he can turn around and teach to the seminary students.

There is PLENTY of work with businesses and corporations re: emotional intelligence, and this is the right side of the growth curve. Most coaches that do well have a part of their practice devoted to businesses, either seminar or workshops, or executive coaching or something like that.

There are people making money at it -- enough to live on, in some cases a lot. I wouldn't rush in to define the market yet. It's too new. Something is clearly going to come up it, but the direction is hard to tell. Saw something on a coaching site today saying "people don't want coaching." That is true. People want something * something to make their life work * and they don't really know what coaching is. In time the two things will come together and meet in the middle. It's like with emotional intelligence. You must have a niche, in order to market. But only about 30% of the individual clients who come to me want "EQ coaching." The others come for the reasons they come for, and even then it may not be the "real" reason they came. They say they want to work on their career, and 6 weeks later we're talking about the wife. That sort of thing.

The only time I step in is when someone is about to quit a good-paying job and "become a coach" w/ no network set up, no savings, and no spousal support. One woman I coached in the marketing had an incredible network and she went from zero to $80,000 in one year, and that is verified. She knew how to network and she had the connections. By connections, I mean the first coaching federation meeting she came to, her dad, a local businessman, came with her. Her mother was the HR director of one of the largest corporations in town.

One I'm working with now got a $5o,000 conract from Merrill Lynch last year. More and more businesses and corporations are contracting with coaches. The statistics are coming in and the stories are circulating that coaching works. That coach is a man and has an MSW.

It's not up to me to predict whether someone will make money at it or not. It depends upon a number of things, including how much they want to and how willing they are to work. I've personally seen coaches make it, so I know it can happen and, "if it's possible, it's possible for you."

I do tell them it takes work, but, you know, some people never believe you. They want web traffic to their site, so I tell them "Write an article." They write one article. They sit. They wonder why it doesn't work. Then I tell them I write 5 articles a day, sometimes 7 days a week, and have for several YEARS. (And yes, I get the traffic.)

There's enough data about businesses in general. Coaching is a BUSINESS. A large percentage of new businesses fail. You MUST know how to market, and that's why I offer the marketing consulting. It's badly needed. Most people have no idea what that means. I spent a couple of decades in marketing, PR and advertising. That gave me an advantage.

We also know that it takes 3 years to get a business going, and what they don't tell you is that it's 3 years of working your butt off. Lately they say if your business makes it 5 years, you're probably in solid, but then a market can disappear. Things move fast these days. Some fields of coaching, for instance, will be eternal. Relationships or dating coaching, for instance, one of things I do. There's always trouble in paradise, and Venus and Mars are never going to move any closer together.

There are other things that are fads. These are the names businesses use. Right now it's "Value-added Blah Blah" and "primal leadership." "Integrity is being treated like a fad, and you could ride that band wagon. The way things move in the business world, if you're giving a "Diversity Initiative" this year, next year you'd bettere be called it a "Multicultural Venue" or something like that. Globalization continues and will continue. It will have different names.

Coaching is about getting people where they want to go. I rarely give advice to any client. If he's beating her, yeah, I'll say get out, get counseling, get back to me. But someone asked me the other day, and she was smart enough to say, "If you were getting blah blah, would you quit your job and become a coach." I answered her question, as to what I would do. (Yes I would. Yes I did.) But they are the person who has to make it happen, live it out, and live with the consequences. How long would I go without making money? How long would YOU go without making money? Got a savings account? Got a sugar daddy? Got a trust fund?

And how do they feel about what they're currently going? This woman said, "I would rather die than work at this place another year." That's incentive. That's motivation. I worked with one guy for 6 months who "thought" he "might like to be" a coach. He was a professor making 6 figures, working 30 hours a week, with 3 months off in the summer. He "hated" his job, he said, but those hours at that pay are hard to beat. Would you make a decision for someone like that? Are you kidding? Turned out he didn't have the motivation. Things were too cushy, even though he didn't like it where he was. He toyed with coaching for a month or two and then gave up. Now he'll go around telling people "There's no market for coaching. You can't make money at it."

I can tell them what "I would do if I were them," which is what some like to ask, but 9 times out of 10 when I do, they say, "But I wouldn't do that!" It's just anxiety makes them ask questions like that. There are coaches out there making money. If you want easy -- work where an income is guaranteed, try civil service.

If they're doing something I think is stupid, I feel obliged to comment. I say, like I did w/ my own teens, "I am going to go on the record here that I think what you're doing is wrong."

I found out one thing when I was a volunteer director. People like to do what they do well at, and they do well at things they like to do. I would have accountants come in and offer to photograph a fashion show, or a homemaker come in and ask to keep the books. I learned to always say "yes". People aren't dumb. They know what's possible. They just need encouragement.


Are you interested in a career in coacing or would you like to know more about marketing an internet business? Would you like coaching for entrepreneurship? CONTACT SUSAN.

Friday, September 23, 2005

THe latest from Shaye ...

I LOVE this...the thing is she calls herself an introvert but is really just an extrovert suffering from some social anxiety. I wish people would understand there is a difference.

DEAR ABBY: I am married, have a daughter I love and a fulfilling job as a teacher. But when it comes to socializing at parties and small gatherings, I have a problem. My husband loves to socialize, which is good because his job is in sales. I'm the opposite. I have a hard time making small talk and become very uncomfortable in social situations. I guess you could call me an introvert. I sense that people pick up on my discomfort, which makes them uncomfortable, too. Sometimes I simply have nothing at all to say to these
people.

Abby, I'm tired of feeling like an odd duck at these kinds of events. I know I owe it to my husband to be supportive when he has to entertain. A while back, you offered a booklet I think might help me, but for the life of me, I can't find that column. How can I get the booklet? Life is too short to be anti-social and insecure. Sign me ... WILTING IN THE SPOTLIGHT IN NEW YORK

DEAR WILTING: Almost everyone suffers from insecurity in social situations at some point or another. People aren't born with social skills; they have to be developed. There are techniques that can be helpful -- and I do, indeed, have a booklet that may help you. Other readers have told me that, by following the suggestions, they have become more comfortable in social situations.

To order "How to Be Popular -- You're Never Too Young or Too Old," send a business-sized, self-addressed envelope, plus check or money order for $5 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby -- Popularity Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. (Postage is included in the price.)

I [Nancy] asked her how she knows. She replies:

Hi,

Well it seems that she has some social anxiety which she can overcome with practice being around people. She says, "My husband loves to socialize...I have a hard time making small talk and become very uncomfortable in social situations."

My idea of an introvert is someone who may not necessarily be uncomfortable in public, but chooses to be around few people or none at all, it's how we're made (re: The Loner's Manifesto).

In fact in my reply to Dear Abby, I said to her, "Introverts are not on the outside looking in, we're on the outside because we want to be." I mean, I could give a speech in public, fine, no sweat, but if you asked me, "Shaye, which would you prefer: hosting a party for 300 guests or retreating to a quiet countryside ranch with just you, a book and your cats?" Guess which one I would choose?

Introverts aren't exactly uncomfortable in a timid, nervous way, it's just that we just lose energy easily. I could be at a party and make small talk with lots of people, but at the end of the evening I would be tired, not scared of people and definitely not energized as an extrovert would be. Yes, there are shy introverts but shyness and introversion are not one and the same.

Shaye :) --Happy Introvert in NJ

Someone wants to know what's the devious purpose behind my IntrovertZ Website, well here it is. You read it first here.

It's my mission in life to raise consciousness about introversion as a legitimate personality type. I don't want any other kid to ever suffer the way I did as a child. Everyone thought I was crazy, wounded, adel-brained. My grandmother found me hiding in the playroom cause I didn't want to meet a carload of teenage guys who dropped by out of the blue that I didn't even know. Someone gave me the nickname from Shakespeare's fools' mouths, Nonnie, or the mad Ophelia. Well, as an infp, we are like fools or like Dostoevsky's idiot in The Idiot. We have the gift of innocence, of simply seeing things without motives and social manipulation, seeing it and saying it. Others are so inured to this or threatened by it, they set it off to the side, relegate it to the world of crazy people.

The rationals think we are living in a fairy tale. The nonintuitives think we make everything up and are out of touch with reality. And there are only 1% of us out there. No wonder we wonder... who THEY ARE!>!>!>!

So why am I doing this website, www.theintrovertzcoach.com ? I'm an infp and we are the poets/healers, the gentle people who want to heal ourselves, the world and others. Inside of us there is a fierce warrior of the truth. Both these things make me do the website.

I am hoping to bring healing to those who have suffered as I have, to bring a little more light to a dark place, to tell more of the truth with power.

If you read some of the things people say on the site, over and over again, the theme is "I thought there was something wrong with me and now I understand..."

That's why I focus so much on things others write. There are so many voices on that site, real people, telling what it is like, how they suffered, how they triumphed. There is humor, insight, searching, comfort ....

If you think I'm doing this for money, that's a joke. It's a labor of absolute love. No amount of money could pay for the time, effort, sincerity, expertise, blood, sweat and tears I put into the site. I do it all myself, HTML, graphics, everything. I sponsor David deVaughn, our MBTI guy. I promote things that may help introverts.

It is entirely my gift to the world because I want my life to have meant something and that means to GIVE.

As an infp I get pretty outraged when people question my motives because I know whose motives they are really in the dark about.

INFPs? We are the ones that put the "good" in "good and evil".

Nancy R. Fenn
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I'm here for support, too. These are great products, beautifully package in the "less is more" style that appeals so much to introverts. The quality is there. The integrity is there.

I thought these were good cartoons. Having evacuated my house three times in the face of wildfires, it is something you don't get over easily.

Of course you learn a lot about what you value, too. Some things I took and some I left would give you a good idea of who I am.

And at least I had a house to come back to. The people I know who lost their homes out here were not pleased with the insurance response.

I guess this is what we are going to see with Neptune transiting in Pisces ... electrifying fury from the depths, from the god Neptuneof the wine dark seas. The tsunami and now these hurricanes.
The Criminal Mind, a new tv show featuring introverts as heroes ...

An elite squad of FBI profilers analyzes the country's most twisted criminal minds and anticipates their next move before they strike again. Each member of the "mind hunter" team brings his own area of expertise as the team pinpoints predators' motivations and identifies their emotional triggers in order to stop them.

That's the official description. Not the best written show on tv by any means, yet it is interesting to see the importance given to the inner world. This is our forte as introverts and sure enough, a cast full of them!

Matthew Gray Gubler (above) plays a fabulously geeky young man with 3 PhDs (yes) and the social awareness of a marigold ... but then that's what we love about being introverts. It all just so much doesn't matter! He really dresses that way, too. This character has to be an INTJ Mastermind. Many of the men in my family are like him so there is a fondness.

Mandy Patinkin's part is pretty awful. He's supposed to be the Scorpionic one but, as all we true Scorps know, that's pretty hard to fake. He has the beady little eyes and tries to stare intensely "into things" but he just doesn't quite pull it off. I think he winds up looking blank. You know we true Scorps melt reality with our lazer intensity and force it to reveal its true nature to us.

This is Mandy Patinkin who is supposed to be a very intense character who can really sniff things out about people.

This show is a reminder of where our strengths lie. If you can get into someone else's mind you sure aren't an extrovert. They can't even get into their own minds :-)
We Love to Read ...

The results of my BOOK SURVEY are coming in and here are some of the fun answers. I will post them in their entirety on the website.

Where are the strangest places you've read ... you book lovers out there?

Larry - on the streets of Manhattan
Andria - during church as a kid
Roxana - wedding chapel during a wedding
Carrie - Six Flags (see below entry)
That wild and crazy Shaye Bomar - where haven't I read a book? floor of a bus terminal, bathroom
Obie - in the bathroom
Yazmin - in a tent, in the bath, walking down the street...
Gigi - On a ledge overlooking the Potomac sitting on a rock
Katrina - I don't go to strange places
Brenda - the bathroom at a restaurant

What's so strange about reading in the bathroom? I thought everybody did. For some of us, it's the only time we have alone!

The oddest place I read was on a cruise on the Queen Elizabeth II the most luxurious cruiseship in the world at that time. My fellow travelers were revelling in skeet shooting, gambling, stage shows, horse racing contests ... you could find me in the ship's library with my nose in Ernest Holmes' Science of Mind which I read twice through on the cruise. I also enjoyed the classical concerts and a gigantic jigsaw puzzle that was a work in process for all passengers in one of the vast hallways outside the public rooms. And of course my favorite thing about cruising, gazing out at sea.

I suppose they thought I was antisocial but it is the fondest memory because there were no phones, no tc, no nothing but nature.

She says, "My relatives think I'm strange for reading a book at Six Flags, instead of riding the rides."

Don't they know she's an introvert and that's WHAT WE DO!!!

Thursday, September 22, 2005

She's experiencing her first Saturn Return ...

I happened accross your website and realized that this stuff really does apply to me!

I have never been one to believe in astrology because it was just for fun, but this is sooo true!

I have been having extremely distressing dreams over the past month or two and "reminders" of long-ago forgotten things that have happened to me in former chapters of my life. I guess they are trying to tell me that I have unfinished business or something I need to take care of. If that's not enough [edited} ....

My whole life is upside down and I have no idea on how to make things right. Everything looks fine for the outsider looking in, but to me, I feel lost...

Where do I go? What do I do? I have no idea where I'm headed in my life and it is very scary and intimidating. What is the next chapter of my life going to be like?

I was born in October of 1977 and am going to be 28 years old soon-half of my life is already gone.

Searching for myself is very hard and confusing. When will it get better? Thanks for listening. -- S from NJ and Arizona

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Introverts aren't mentally ill, a "terrific" article, READ MORE.

Great article! Although I think some people may read more into it than is actually there. Just because I may "prefer" to communicate in writing in many situations (in order to be able to think things through adequately) does not mean I am socially inept or unable to carry on conversations.

I can easily start conversations with strangers, speak in front of large groups better than most extroverts I know, and mingle well at parties. But, after the party is over, I am drained -- and need time alone to recharge.

This was a terrific article -- some of the things described me so perfectly, and I hadn't even realized they were related to my introversion (such as my tendency to let the answering machine pick up the phone so I don't have to). Thanks!

~ Susan