What
makes an introvert an introvert? We can skip some of the involved
definitions and tell you three things to look for that are
a dead giveaway: living in an inner world, being territorial
and a strong aversion to environmental stimulants, such as
noise. In an age where cell phones are proliferating, noise
pollution is becoming a serious ill to many introverts. Too
much noise can affect our peace of mind and our emotional
and physiological well being, causing serious stress related
problems such as irritability, chronic fatigue syndrome and
premature aging.
Here is a statement made by Sara-Ann, an introvert in her
late twenties who responded to one of the polls on the IntrovertZCoach
website. Sara-Ann says, "When I was a kid, I liked to
run around outside when there were too many people in the
house (like the T.V. was on and someone was cooking in the
kitchen and there was lots of noise). I often played by myself
in my room while listening to classical music on my transistor
radio starting at about 4 years old."
Sara-Ann is giving preferences few people would believe could
come from a 4 year old but that is because "few people"
are introverts. 70% of the people in America are extroverts
and have little knowledge of how offensive noise and other
environmental pollutants are to those with whom they share
the planet (30% introverts). Those brightly lit, noisy shopping
malls, loud and crowded cruise ships, movie theaters with
wrap around sound and network gatherings in the hundreds are
designed to stimulate and thrill extroverts but are deadly
to the peace of mind and physical well being of introverts
who gasp for breath, grab their aching heads and sometimes
even head for the bathroom with an upset stomach
often
beating themselves up in the process wondering why they "can't
have fun".
Let's learn more about introversion so we can support ourselves
in avoiding crowds, lights and noise without feeling bad about
it. In shared public space introverts don't expect to dominate
the tonal experience of the majority - or at least we have
no hopes of it - but we can learn to make informed choices
and we can also learn not to apologize for ourselves. Sometimes
we can even learn to ask that exhibitionist on the cell phone
to "Please, shhhhh! You're talking too loud"!
I was amazed to find this essay several weeks ago written
most likely around 1800 (!) by the German philosopher Arthur
Schopenhauer. Before your eyes glaze over, let me assure you
it's message is succinct and cogent two hundred years later
in the New Millennium. One of Germany's greatest philosophers
begins by saying that "banging and hammering and general
noise-making has been a daily torment" to him all his
life. "There are people," he says, "who are
insensitive to noise, but these are the same people who are
insensitive to argument, ideas, to poetry and works of art,
in short to intellectual impressions of every kind" because
of their "tough constitution" and the "firm
texture" of their brain. It's pretty obvious to me he's
describing the difference between introverts and extroverts
and doing this very nicely.
Schopenhauer also explains that other writers have had the
same problem. He mentions Kant, Goethe and several others
not well known today. I myself have a quote from Goethe which
says, "My greatest wealth is the deep stillness in which
I strive and grow and win what the world cannot take from
me with fire or sword."
Schopenhauer continues by describing how disruptive it is
when a racket occurs. Some introverts on my Sparrow Retreat
Introverts Forum have described neighbors using snow blowers
at 1:30 in the morning, hot tub parties til break of dawn
with screaming and explicit language, working on cars over
the weekend with radios blaring, squawking PA systems and,
most inappropriately of all, cell phones invading every bit
of privacy we have left. As one man wrote, "Noise pollution?
I think this is true. Perfect example: I'm in the bathroom
at work standing at a urinal, doing my business. If someone
walks in - another introvert - they will just do their business
and leave. If an extrovert - like one of the sales guys -
walks in - immediately conversation ensues. 'How bout those
Mets?' type conversation. Drives me berserk."
A
woman on the Forum replied, "If you think that's bad,
I've been in the women's room when someone initiates a call
from the stall next to me and carries on a perky conversation
with their boyfriend. That's when I start flushing the toilet
so perhaps she will be ashamed when someone on the other end
hears what she's doing. What has happened to people's sense
of decency?"
Aside
from annoyance in public places, noise can disrupt one of
the things we introverts do best, contemplation. Introverts
learn by turning facts into knowledge. We like to "think
it over" and "connect the dots". Contrary to
popular belief by suspicious extroverts, that is more than
likely what we are doing in our rooms with the doors closed
- thinking something over!
Schopenhauer
explains beautifully what happens when noise disturbs or interrupts
these deep thoughts of ours. "I explain the matter as
follows," he says, "as when a large diamond is broken
to pieces its value is equal to only so many little diamonds,
or when an army is reduced to small units it becomes ineffective,
so when a great mind is interrupted, disturbed and distracted
it is capable of no more than a commonplace mind, because
its superiority consists in concentrating all its forces on
one single point and object, in the same way as a concave
mirror concentrates all its rays, and this is precisely what
noisy interruption prevents it from doing."
Schopenhauer
is referring to the fantastic ability most introverts have
to focus. This is one of the reasons we get our work done
at work rather than sitting around the coffee room indulging
in small talk. This isn't even tempting to most of us. Most
of us would rather die than small talk, truth be known.
While
we concentrate, we pull all our thoughts together to focus
them on a point, contrast, synthesis or greater understanding.
This is the way we think. This is the way we learn. When that
process is interrupted, all is lost!
Schopenhauer
continues, "That is why eminent minds have always been
so extremely averse to every kind of disturbance, interruption
and distraction, and most of all to violent interruption by
noise, while the rest are not especially troubled by it."
Perhaps
not all introverts have "eminent" minds, and certainly
few have minds like Schopenhauer; however, there is a known
statistical correlation between introversion, giftedness,
PhDs and Phi Beta Kappas. It would seem that the higher you
go in education and IQ, the ratio of introverts to extroverts
reverses itself with a majority of Rhodes Scholars being introverts,
for example.
Think
of the most beautiful library you have ever seen a picture
of and how soothing it is to imagine yourself sitting there
reading or contemplating in "perfect" silence. Now
that's what we call "fun"! Almost
every introvert I know, when dragged on a cruise, spends their
time in the ship's library. For us, silence can be golden.
Last
time I was in Las Vegas -- extrovert Heaven -- my table at
breakfast permitted me to eat, drink, chit chat, watch games
on TV, buy tickets, mark cards and romance the waitress all
at the same time. This is extrovert Heaven. Extroverts welcome
diversion, distraction and interruption. What goes on in their
minds? Schopenhauer said it pretty well, "Where there
is nothing to interrupt, to be sure, it will cause no especial
discomfiture."

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COMMENTS
ON THIS ARTICLE from OTHER GREAT MINDS:
12.05.2004 For God's sake, his name was Arthur Schopenhauer, not Arnold Schopenhauer. The author must have been derailed by the sound of a bird pooping.
[Nancy's note: Usually great minds extend great courtesy. Although the tone of this comment is not up to internet standards of common courtesy, I do appreciate it when mistakes are called to my attention. I input thousands of words a month and try to be a perfect proof reader as well! This is something a spell check wouldn't catch as I was concentrating on spelling Schopenhauer correctly and my mind slipped a gear on his first name. Please call broken links to my attention as well ... ]
4.04.2004:
I really enjoyed this article. I know what it is like to
have to work in a noisy environment. -- PW
4.04.2004:
So apt! -- CO
4.04.2004:
this article was wonderful! it validated some of my preferences
and gave me a greater insight into why I feel the way I
do! Thank you! -- AA