I doubt if there is a more loaded topic between women than this one.

GIVING A FACE and a VOICE
TO "THE OTHER WOMAN"

WHEN IT'S TIME TO GET CLOSURE ...
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Is he married? Is he cheating? Does he have others besides you?
Is his wife dangerous? Is she fooling around, too?
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"The Other Woman" by Mark Heine

Also read, Liz Greene's article THE ETERNAL TRIANGLE



THREE PEOPLE ARE PRESENT AND RESPONSIBLE IN ALL LOVE TRIANGLES This article began in my mind when I read an MSN column about restoring trust in marriage. A woman discovered her husband had been having an affair with his office manager for 7 years. The article was supportive and sympathetic to the wife who had dropped by her husband's office one night to take him some dinner and invite him out to the theater only to find him "in the act" with his office manager. She was very shocked. Her husband dropped the "other woman" immediately and said he would never see her again. I guess we were supposed to stand up and cheer.

Instead, I found myself wondering, what about this other woman, the office manager who lost not only a great job but a man she had been in love with for seven years and who had probably led her on? I wondered ... who was there to comfort and support her? More than likely, her friends ganged up on her and said, "We told you never to date a married man!"

And what about the husband? Isn't it just as callous to toss out the office manager in one day after a seven year relationship as it is to have the affair in the first place?

 

 

ABOUT THIS SURVEY I've been talking to people intimately about their lives over the past 25 years. Most of my clients are women and they've taught me to see life from many viewpoints.

READING FOR MARRIED WOMEN Many married women I've read for complained about their husbands and children. They were bored and frustrated with things most single women would give their right arm for.

READING FOR THE "OTHER WOMAN" I have also read for many single women who were having affairs with married men. These "other women" lived in a very different world.

I doubt if there is a more loaded topic between women than this one.

I wish I had $100 for every woman who came to me for a reading wanting to know, "Is he seeing someone else?" We psychics use our discretion in these matters. After all, no reason to send someone off with a loaded gun.


 


Often the other woman in a triangle is blamed as a hussy or seductress while the man is forgiven because, after all, he is "weak".


Alice Edmonstone
Mistress of King Edward VII of England


Camilla Parker-Bowles
with Prince Charles

 

It is my hope with this feedback form to raise some consciousness on the part of both wives and lovers.

THE LOVE TRIANGLE
THE SURVEY
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I'd like to find out a lot more about these things from the viewpoint of the "other woman". If you would like to help with the survey, please begin now.

I will use your responses anonymously in an article I'm going to write on this topic. I feel this article will raise a lot of consciousness among women.

Responses will also be published HERE while I'm gathering information for the article.

 

THE THOUGHTFUL AND SYMPATHETIC
OTHER WOMAN
SURVEY

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Please add your comments by completing the form.


All questions on this form are optional.
Please feel free to remain anonymous but TELL THE TRUTH.
Please write as much as you like ... more is better.
What you have to say could really enlighten someone else,
wife, husband or "the other woman".

name

email


your age


Please pick fictitious first names for you and your married lover. This is mainly to make it easier for you to write about as you go down the feedback form.

married lover

you

How did your relationship get started?

How long did it last?

How did it end?

Would you do it again?

Did he say he had never done this before?
Did you believe him? Was it true?


NOW FOR THE DETAILS

Did he have any kids or would it have mattered if he did?
How old were his kids?
Did he say he was just staying married "for the kids"?


Did you know his wife already"
Did you get to know her?


If you didn't already know his wife,
did you ever contact her for any reason?
If so, please elaborate completely. What happened?
I would like to know why you made the choice
to contact his wife and whether
you still feel it was the right choice.

Did he spend a lot of money on you? Give examples.
Did he support you? Pay your rent?
(Obviously this is a relative question.)

What did he promise you?

Did you want to marry him or just continue the affair?
Did you press him to get divorced?

Are you still in contact with him?

Did you have a child with him or an abortion?

Did you date other people while you were having the affair?

What advice would you give someone
who is considering an affair?

What advice would you give a wife
whose husband is having an affair?

Why do you think men have affairs?
What was missing in his marriage that you provided?

Did you ever feel guilty about what you were doing?

Where did you meet to have the affair?
How often did you meet?
Did you meet regularly or randomly?

Did you tell your friends and relatives?
Who did you tell?
What was their reaction?

What did you learn from this experience?
[Added later ... this is not a trap question, it's an open ended question. Have you learned anything (interesting) (unusual) (particular) (amazing) (run-of-the-mill) etc. This is a neutral survey and not a guilt trip, so don't answer this question like it was Sunday School, okay?]

Overall about the experience,
which of these images best depicts your feelings
or the main feelings you had most of the time.

click the button beneath the picture you identify with

lady at pillar in the night with birds and moon

lady wearing red shawl, music in background

4 faces, how, when where, why


"Dreams are the book your Soul is writing about you."

dreams are the book your Soul ...


"Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself ..."

love has no other desire


"Eternal desire ... love affair to remember."

eternal desire

 

4 women, latin words in background

See HOW OTHERS RESPONDED

These images are from Non Sequiturs and
used with permission from Lisette Cannedy.

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